The vulnerability in this post encompasses beauty in ways we are not even consciously aware of. Liberating to say the least. I live for unconventional ways of being and the concepts you’ve presented in regards to “being ugly is power” is a game changer.
This hits for me, as a woman of color who also struggled with “beauty x societal conditioning x a vain AF mother” I’ve accepted and released the shame around the hairs under my neck and across my jaw line lol! I’m like fuck it who cares in the first place and I don’t feel like going through the hassle of waxing/ tweezing my face on a Sunday morning. So yea if my hairy face makes you uncomfortable that’s a “YOU” problem and if anyone is still judging others is simply an indication of judgement of self.
Definitely a subscriber now excited to dive into your world✨
Beautiful and moving writing! I get rubbed the wrong way when people compliment my appearance in a way that's molded by beauty standards (like being told I'm tall) because I don't want to be defined by my proximity to "beauty". Same with when people are judgemental about my body hair or posture or gender presentation. These are the things that make up Me. All of it is valuable to my identity!
i adore this stance. there’s something so powerful to be felt from connecting the “flaws” you have to a place, to a piece of the world, rather than another person or product plasticized by western colonialism and capitalism. and the silence that comes from being apart from all of those conventions are eye opening. being so unconventional is a great dimension to live along side of hive mind beauty
wow. yes exactly this. like when capitalism and beauty culture tells you you don't have a place in the world you root your feet into the ground. so good you're so right
i'm glad someone put it into words. i'm fat, ugly, sweaty and hairy. i find it strangely freeing. sure i get some extremely nasty and specific abuse and threats but i'm happier now than when i was thin and pretty, beating my face before school, straightening my hair for ages just so i could wear a normal ponytail that some arsehole kid would end up pulling anyway, shaving my legs in the shower a d missing patches because i couldn't see, feeling miserable about the body acne scars and stretch marks as i rub rosehip oil on it. i'm queer, who exactly am i meant to do all this shit for anyway?
I absolutely LOVE this. You’re such an amazing writer and storyteller; I got lost in your game of fantastic wordplay. To be ugly is to be exhilarating and that’s the best way anyone has ever put it!
This is so beautiful ❤️
The vulnerability in this post encompasses beauty in ways we are not even consciously aware of. Liberating to say the least. I live for unconventional ways of being and the concepts you’ve presented in regards to “being ugly is power” is a game changer.
This hits for me, as a woman of color who also struggled with “beauty x societal conditioning x a vain AF mother” I’ve accepted and released the shame around the hairs under my neck and across my jaw line lol! I’m like fuck it who cares in the first place and I don’t feel like going through the hassle of waxing/ tweezing my face on a Sunday morning. So yea if my hairy face makes you uncomfortable that’s a “YOU” problem and if anyone is still judging others is simply an indication of judgement of self.
Definitely a subscriber now excited to dive into your world✨
Beautiful and moving writing! I get rubbed the wrong way when people compliment my appearance in a way that's molded by beauty standards (like being told I'm tall) because I don't want to be defined by my proximity to "beauty". Same with when people are judgemental about my body hair or posture or gender presentation. These are the things that make up Me. All of it is valuable to my identity!
me!!! i feel like now i get why i feel icky because to me a lot of compliments feel baseless and in no way actually connected to me or my identity?
i adore this stance. there’s something so powerful to be felt from connecting the “flaws” you have to a place, to a piece of the world, rather than another person or product plasticized by western colonialism and capitalism. and the silence that comes from being apart from all of those conventions are eye opening. being so unconventional is a great dimension to live along side of hive mind beauty
wow. yes exactly this. like when capitalism and beauty culture tells you you don't have a place in the world you root your feet into the ground. so good you're so right
ur such a great storyteller, i love ur writing <3
ur not ugly you just need to follow a healthy eating and exercising lifestyle
god i loved this so much. every post is brilliance after brilliance. you did a really good job at reframing ugliness, leaves me a lot to think about
i'm glad someone put it into words. i'm fat, ugly, sweaty and hairy. i find it strangely freeing. sure i get some extremely nasty and specific abuse and threats but i'm happier now than when i was thin and pretty, beating my face before school, straightening my hair for ages just so i could wear a normal ponytail that some arsehole kid would end up pulling anyway, shaving my legs in the shower a d missing patches because i couldn't see, feeling miserable about the body acne scars and stretch marks as i rub rosehip oil on it. i'm queer, who exactly am i meant to do all this shit for anyway?
You put into words so many things I have been trying to write about/make sense of lately. Thank you for this piece of writing ❤️
I LOVED THIS OMG <3333333
coming back to reread this 2 yrs later and im so thankful for your writing <3
I absolutely LOVE this. You’re such an amazing writer and storyteller; I got lost in your game of fantastic wordplay. To be ugly is to be exhilarating and that’s the best way anyone has ever put it!
My heart is so warmed ♥️